That is a question I get almost weekly at the gym. Along with, “Please tell me you aren’t trying to lose weight.” Why is it okay to ask that? My reasons for being at the gym are personal to me. I have always been thin, ALWAYS. I weighed 48 pounds until 5th grade. Hated it! I wanted to wear what kids my age were wearing but it did not come in a child’s size.
My weight has always been a struggle, a struggle to gain it. Most people focus on losing weight and I applaud all of those who have and continue to lose or maintain their weight. Kudos to you! I do want to gain weight and I want to do it in a healthy way. I have been told on countless occasions to “eat something” because I am too thin. The thing is, I do eat and I eat a lot. What I eat is not junk food. I like to eat salad, vegetables, lean meats and all of the foods that are good for me. Then I am faced with comments like “you eat way too healthy”, “you’re a health nut”, “that is why you are so skinny, you eat rabbit food.” My reaction to this, most of the time I smile, change the subject and keep it moving because I do not like talking about it. I do not feel I need to explain myself. I do not comment about what they eat and they should not comment about what I eat.
My first time wearing a bathing suit in over 15 years.
But there are times when I do react, I ask them “Why is ok for you to call me skinny?” I am met with hesitation and a puzzled look. It is not okay to randomly tell me that I am skinny, or any other derivative of the word. I know I am and I am working on it. Being called skinny is not always flattering as most would think.
I want to gain weight. So, I decided to do something about it. I hired a personal trainer to help me gain the weight I needed and to help turn it into muscle. It is going great. He is so encouraging and helpful. He pushes me outside of my comfort zone, just what I needed. He makes me want to workout because I know he will get me where I want to be. I leave each session knowing that my hard work will pay off.
So please, the next time you see a thin person, do not point it out to them. They know they are thin and have heard numerous comments throughout their entire lives, at least I have. If it’s offensive to call someone fat, isn’t it just as offensive to call someone skinny? I am starting to finally feel comfortable in my skin and it is because I am embracing my body and learning to love myself. Think before you speak, you never know what someone has been or is going through.
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